Can I ask something?

 I am seriously curious about this so if you have any thoughts can you please share with me because I really would appreciate hearing your thoughts. Cheri you seem to understand my brain pretty well maybe you can articulate why this happens.

I don’t know how to articulate my questions concisely.

Question: Why is it when I do something unique/special that initially gives me a ‘high’ or relieves stress quickly becomes common place or not enough – and quickly becomes part of my every day instead of what it was originally which was a source to draw renewed energy from.

i.e. Running – I feel like this is the most obvious. There was a time when I did not need a few runs a week to function normally. I am doing better now I have suffered through withdraws. But literally before I went to Utah if I went more than two days without running I started to crack. I would turn into an absolute bear. Unable to cope, turning into an emotional wreck with stress. This is not a “oh great, running is a big part of her life!” No, I hate this reality! What have I gotten myself into! When I went on one of my runs while in Utah I literally remember thinking, “Well now I know how drug addicts feels”. You’re probably laughing. Oh Heath, you’re so dramatic. I’m serious though! It used to be a high for me, I’d go out twice a week and it would be a high, and now  I need it to just barely function normally! So frustrating!

i.e. Alcohol – People sit down have a glass of wine to take the edge off after a stressful day. I can completely understand that. But do you know how many alcoholic mothers there are?! One glass can easily become not enough, especially in the life of a mom. They are having to take more and more, and you know what I sympathize. It is vicious.  Same thought of people having to increase their dose of whatever drug their on.

I just mention this because there was a time that exercise, yeah I loved doing it for fun. I loved to swim, I loved to go on bike rides up the canyon but I ‘d have seasons of being into it and seasons of not. It wasn’t completely ingrained in the lifestyle and I functioned just fine, I really did. We all know people that hate exercise, and you CAN be happy without it. You can. I really do love it, I enjoy sweating, getting the toxins out it is nice. But why do things have to get old!!?  I’m not this addict but I am functioning on the same level I did but I have to add all of this stuff to complicate my life.  We wonder why do people have to be so extreme? Iron Mans, marathons, triathlons, etc.  I totally think it’s because they miss being able to have the feeling of a great high exercising because it quickly disappears. Why? Are there things that aren’t like that? Is my knitting going to becoming just a necessity to function. Is the calm it brings going to fade? I mean look at the blog! I have tapered a little but I am pretty much a blog addict. At one point it got so bad I was posting every other day sometimes.

I mean I can grasp the obvious why people get hooked on coffee, diet coke, alcohol- but haven’t you noticed that a lot of other things fade as well?

One other example if I haven’t gotten my point across. A bath: In Japan everyone has these lavish baths in their homes. Even tiny apartments have these modern high tech baths. Everyone takes a bath. It isn’t even considered luxury, it’s absolute necessity. People find their rituals and they stick to them, but why do they have to turn into absolute necessities WHY can’t they stay luxuries? Why is the luxury once obtained a necessity.

2 responses

  1. I think I got a B in my Intro to Psychology course (and my advanced psych courses were, well, never taken)–so my insights are pretty random. I do think that many/most things become common to us over time; things that were once intriguing or exciting or impressive become commonplace–perhaps because they have become, literally, common in our lives–but perhaps that’s okay; if we perpetually got true excitement from doing A, we’d never try B–we’d have our A blinders on all of our lives. I think your running example is a different/special case–because it absolutely has a physiological impact on your life; your body ultimately responds favorably to exercise–and you will feel (physically and emotionally) different if you reduce your exercise patterns. That change in behavior is much different than, perhaps, paring back on your knitting–which has no significant physical component. My sense is that our social/emotional/spiritual/physical being is complex, ever changing, delicate–and in perpetual need of nourishment. There is nothing static about it–so keep listening to your needs and investing in yourself; none of us are living the perfect life–so we’re all trying to put our pieces of the puzzle together as best we can. We’re blessed with some great guidance–which the rest of the world lacks–so our path to peace should be much more direct than those who endlessly explore proven paths of self-destruction (think winebibbing mothers, not Japanese baths!).

  2. HB, great question. I like P’s response; so true…. the running is a chemical/physiological thing… and our lives/circumstances are always changing and so too are our needs. The one thing that ALWAYS gives me a high, without fail and without fading, is scripture study. The other thing I’ve found is that as “my eye becomes more single to the glory of God”, I am (of course) happier and less stressed, and pure joy and peace are found in doing the things of eternal importance, rather than always looking for “more” or something “new”. Hmmmm, not sure how to articulate it, but I hope it makes sense.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: